we have been in contact with the foster sister and she told us thank you for adopting her. this made me feel so much better. It was what they wanted and that makes it so much easier for me. Lily is so frustrated right now because she is very smart and does not understand much english. if she understood more things could be explained and she would be able to handle things better. we are searching for many ways for her to learn and i am teaching her all day long. please pray for her as she goes through this very confusing time. she also knows how to push every ones buttons and plays the dumb card a lot. she can be very manipulative and im  trying to balance love with boundaries. She is doing so well considering but it is still a challenge every day:) I pray im up to the task!!!